Self-love is not a selfish love. Self Love is self-acceptance – complete appreciation of who you are in God. When you come to love yourself, you realize that you as an individual are already whole and complete. God did not create you a half of a person. God did not create you with a disclaimer that until everything lines up in your life only then will you be whole. No, when he created you – His work was finished. Too many times in society we think that we can be full individuals when we get married or we obtain this or that. You are complete.
1 Corinthians 13-4-8 states that love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy; it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others; it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, It keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trust, always hopes always perseveres.
These are the characteristics of God – whom as followers of Christ we are to reflect. It is Him in us that comes shining through you. Before we can adequately reflect something – we have to become it (all) internally. When you can show kindness and patience to yourself – you develop the ability to display those same traits outwardly. You are love divine – created – and covered. Love doesn’t come to you – it is in you.
I love the statement “Love the skin you’re in.” You would not be better as someone else – your look – your height – your abilities – your personality – everything about you is God’s workmanship. Everything about you has a divine purpose on the earth. God said I knew you – meaning before the conception before your naming – before the introduction to the world – He already knew you. Get this – He already had an insiders knowledge of you.
Learn to say no! Saying no has always been difficult for me. I would say yes when I knew I should have been saying no. Wanting everybody to like you and not be upset with you is detrimental to your self-love. Being helpful and dependable is ok. It’s ok to say no just as much as it is ok to say yes at times. Learn your boundaries. A polite no is better than a regretful yes.
Own your stuff. With self-acceptance, there is this thing called own your stuff. Own your decisions rather good or bad. Own your mistakes and mishaps. Own your stuff!! When you can own your stuff, you open up the door to a room for growth. Growth is a good thing. Growth elevates our lives, our thinking and how we respond to life. It helps us better our decision-making skills and develops our character. Nobody is perfect – you’re becoming – I’m becoming – isn’t that a good thing? Be willing to take out the trash. Your life has too big of a purpose to be traveling heavy. If you don’t know the places you’re carrying heavy – ask God to reveal them.
Learn to laugh at life. Life can be heavy at times but when we learn to laugh – to giggle – we ease the weight and allows us to see the light. I often laugh because I understand its healing powers. Laughter is good medicine (Proverbs 17:22). Go ahead and share a gut hurling laugh – it sweetens life.
Do what you love. I love to travel; I have been making plans to do more of it. Don’t put what you enjoy on the back burner another day. Remember you only get one life. Forget fear. Forget the what ifs and find your passion. Find that things that light you up. Whatever that is and it looks different for us all – do it. Live life now, so you have fewer regrets later. Don’t ask if it can be done – tell yourself that you are made for incredibly more and get it.
Acceptance of yourself can be hard at times. I am a witness. You can be your very own worst critic. Always looking at what is wrong – then what is right about ourselves. When we shift our thinking and ultimately accept who we are – remove ideas of perfection and cultivate the love God has for us – we can grasp a love of ourselves that is receiving. We can each look at our flaws like yea – I have work to do, but I can love myself through the path of becoming all that I am in Christ. How you-you come into self-love?
- Be patient with yourself
- Speak kindly to yourself – even when you mess up
- Never envy the lives of other (you don’t know their story)
- Accept who you are and where you are right now completely
- See yourself as a whole being (God’s complete work)
- Let your light shine (your life is a gift)
- Don’t wait to everything is perfect to enjoy your life (you only get one)
- Don’t be limited by what other people think
- Allow God to mold you
- Live intentionally with purpose
- Forgive yourself
- Allow yourself room to grow
- Set boundaries
- Do what you love
When we find God – we discover who we were created to be. He created each of us for love and in love. Love yourself, my friend. Love you in YOU! God didn’t make any mistakes in-fact he smiled at his design and said that it was good. Learn to love yourself